One of my first Big Life Decision came at 21 when I was working part-time as a nurse’s aide in a local nursing home. One day a co-worker and I went to the local Goodwill to buy some clothes for her kids. She made her purchases quickly and soon we were back in the car smoking and I was telling her how I wanted to quit school. As I talked, she began to burn the price tags off the clothes with the tip of her cigarette. She wasn’t sad, but the moment suddenly scared me. I didn’t know what I wanted in life, but I knew right then I didn’t want to be burning the price tags off clothes in 5 years. That was her world and I knew I needed to find my own world. I stopped talking. And I decided to give school another try not because of what I wanted but more because of what I knew I didn’t want. I’ve faced many Big Life Decisions since that time with lovers and family and jobs. Sometimes what I’ve needed to do has come to me in a flash, like that day in the car. But mostly when presented with a Big Life Decision, I don’t know what to do. I like David Whyte’s poem because it invites me to start close in, with what I do know. His poem tells me it’s ok to take one step at a time—and it doesn’t have to be a big step or a small step or any particular sort of step, so long as it’s mine.